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From the person who brought to you a "Long Letter To PeTA".

~Ms. Sarkeesian,
for whatever reason you're shouting "sexism and misogyny" at everything. I'm not sure if you're doing this to keep the business of feminism up and running, or you really don't know how to use those words.

I would like to say that I'm really disappointed that you censor criticism and anything that questions your views. You also keep the rude comments in the metaphorical garbage bin. Whether you meant to imply it or not, it suggests that constructive criticism and inquiring questions are no different than rude comments and trolling.

I really despise how you take any bit of truth (what little there is) and stretch it to make it sound like most women in North America are kept in the kitchen against their will. I have yet to see a video where you dedicate at least 80% of the video to misogyny in the middle east, where it's much more common. Since you focus more on stereotypes and pop culture, I'll be willing to play on those terms.

You had a mini series where you'd tell the viewers about tropes attributed to women. You only covered six out of the many others. You claimed that some of those tropes harness hurtful stereotypes. The only one out of the six I agreed with was the Straw Feminist, as it's often more outrageous than the others (in my opinion) and is an insult (rather than a criticism) of the feminist movement. As bad as tropes may be in your eyes, it's impossible to write any book/movie/song/poem without a trope. Nothing is new under the sun.

There's much worse I have to offer, and you should consider yourself lucky that I'm being a gentleman about it.

The way you analyze sexism is very one-sided. It seems that any sexism makes the woman look like an innocent victim and the man a pervert, but look again. Beer commercials are sexist against men as well, simply because they portray men as nearly mindless cavemen who think drinking and sex is the ultimate goal. They are totally dehumanized that way and (dare I say it?) that is worse than the sexist portrayals of women I've seen.

Women still have brains when they're portrayed as victims at least. They aren't reduced to a primitive beast.

Second, let me remind you of the definitions of sexism and misogyny.

Sexism is attributing a stereotype to the gender its often associated with. Stereotypes can be hateful if they're used menacingly rather than as a joke. Misogyny is the hatred of women. Actually, the meaning is much more extensive than the definition of "misandry" (hatred of men).

Misogyny includes fear, mistrust and mistreatment of women. Misandry is just simply the hatred of men. Some spell check systems don't recognize misandry as a word altogether. There are sexist double standards engraved into our brains to make us think the man is always the bad guy or a pervert. Even you let this misandrist attitude speak out a few times. You trashed Zack Snyder for making Sucker Punch.

The reason you hated the movie was because of the skimpy outfits and the said lack of plot. You went on rambling about it's supposed appeal to teenage boys and made it sound like a bad thing. If you really think it's okay to bash men for simply liking that stuff or just having a sex drive while you never criticize women drooling over men, you have a problem.

Deny it all you want, but you made yourself sound like a misandrist. Before you call out "misogyny" against me, I don't fit the definition nor am I using hate speech. Did I say women suck? No. I did not criticize the entire gender, I'm criticizing YOU. If you're the strong woman you think you are, you can take this in stride and improve yourself.

If the previous paragraph made you feel uneasy, the rest of this is going to be painful.

I'm at the end of my ropes and I don't think you deserve the respect I'm giving you, but I have to do it anyway since we're both people and you will ignore stuff that is a blatant insult. You can censor comments on youtube, but not here. Plenty of people (myself included) are not thrilled with your kickstarter, especially the way you conned people into giving their money. You were making videos about tropes and women in pop culture for free, why do you need the cash? Oh, right, that big pile of videogames it paid for.

I doubt you're going to finish what you started because you stopped the "Tropes VS Women" series. How can you convince me and those who are backing me up that you can keep your promise? At this point, you can't. I've made up my mind, and so did some scores of people. Not every gamer girl feels comfortable with you representing her because of how you do things.

And what else do we have here? You're against all sexualization and art that depicts dead women?

Macabre art is still art, and it's art that expresses the most raw and honest things that go on in people's minds. You're just against it for the sake of furthering the feminist agenda or it's because you don't subscribe to the idea that anything can be considered art. Someone had the nerve to say something against your views, and then you say it's not about art. Hello? Music videos are part of the art spectrum. You just try to switch the topic when somebody corners you with reason. As for sexualization, you said nobody should be sexualized for any reason. Sexualization isn't necessarily a bad thing, it just has its disturbing moments. I think you've spent way too much time being creeped out by rule 34 and not paying much attention to other sexual images unless you find them sexist against women.

Yet you're okay with porn where a healthy sexual relationship is established. Newsflash! Porn actors and actresses don't usually love each other. It's lust. They agree to hook up and make a video because they think it will look hot because they're two hot people. The same thing applies to other porn with the sexual orientations changed.

You're against sexualization, yet you're okay with porn? Don't you see the hypocrisy here or do you not know what porn does? Porn sexualizes the participants, that's what it's for. That way, it arouses people. Yes, it does reduce people to objects, but not all objectification is sexual. To objectify means to reduce someone to an object, and not all objects are sexual.

Alright, I admit I went a bit far, so let's talk about something a bit lighter. You aren't too happy with the way toys are marketed to kids. I'd actually love to be the bringer of bad news, but advertising barbies to boys and robots to girls won't solve the problem or make kids interested. Toy companies aren't trying to keep girls in kitchens or make boys violent, they're doing what they do because it sells the most cash.

Even if you were to raise a kid away from TV, they'd still pick a toy attributed to their gender roles because children pick up behaviors from their parents. If mommy is a stay at home mother who washes the laundry and cooks and daddy does woodwork and builds houses, the kids are going to pick up on that. Young children are aware of gender and like everybody else, they have their bias and a desire to be with their own gender and they want to fit in. This is the rule, there are exceptions.

May I ask who is saying girls are not allowed to play with dinosaurs? Who says boys aren't allowed to play with barbie? The commercials aren't saying so, they say trucks are for boys, but barely any of them say girls can't have them. Is that so hard to wrap your head around?

Before I leave in bitterness, I'm going to say that you don't live in a patriarchy. The grass is brown on both sides of the fence and the double standards are hurting everyone. Women aren't special, they're just human. Men aren't brute australopithecines, they're just human. You're human too, Ms. Sarkeesian. Not a goddess, not a troll, nothing more or less than a human being.


Well, that's my long letter. If more needs to be added, I'll put it in.
Have a nice day everyone!

I need to recharge, this may have been the hardest and smartest thing I've done so far, and it's dedicated to common sense and people who see through FeministFrequency's guise.
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Josh-Toons Featured By Owner Sep 28, 2015  Hobbyist Filmographer
Did you actually send this to Anita?
HelenaKnowlegdeOffic Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2014
I'm a feminist.
And I hate THOSE kind of feminists (rabid ones).

TheGiaroo Featured By Owner Mar 17, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I love you.
NOKAPIplz Featured By Owner Mar 20, 2013
That's the nicest thing anyone has said to me within a few months. Thanks.
TheGiaroo Featured By Owner Mar 20, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I want millions of people to send this to her!
NOKAPIplz Featured By Owner May 5, 2013
She'll just ignore it or overanalyze it to the point where it becomes sexist silly putty she can hand out to people.
Guei-Girl Featured By Owner Sep 4, 2012
I noticed another thing about "feminist" double standards: It's wrong for a man to be shallow and judge women by their looks, but it's perfectly okay for women to be shallow and judge men (and sometimes other women) by their looks. Is that hypocritical or what?
NOKAPIplz Featured By Owner Sep 4, 2012
Yes, it is hypocritical. Yet when anybody brings it up, somebody would say "women are just like that".
Guei-Girl Featured By Owner Sep 4, 2012
I know right? It's sickening because I'm not superficial.
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